Gordy's Thoughts on Change

We lost our Sammy Ca

2011-01-22T08:57:00.001-08:00

We lost our Sammy Cat yesterday. He was 20 years old. (I don't know how that translates into people years.) He was a big part of our world. Only cat/animal lovers can understand how those little beings work their way into your hearts. My lap will feel empty for a while, but Eve will be able to kiss me goodnight without Sammy's tail in her face! His system just wore out. Sammy Cat moves on to his next adventure. We'll miss him. Peace, Gordy Graham

It snowed in our tow

2011-01-12T14:57:00.001-08:00

It snowed in our town last night, and we live on a hill! Eve and I walked in the snow to get home last night - the car just wouldn't climb that steep rise. As anyone who knows me will attest - "I am a driver!" So imagine how tough it must haave been for the average driver, if even I couldn't make it! LOL (No editing, Eve!) Peace, Gordy Graham

My second book, "Cha

2011-01-08T14:52:00.001-08:00

My second book, "Change Is An Inside Job," included a section on "Lessons Learned." One lesson that still holds true is, you can't be all things to all people. We all bring something to the game, which suggests that we can achieve much more through collaboration, so let's find areas of interest where we can combine our efforts. I don't choose to be "the Lone Ranger," so let's see what we can do together. One other point - something that will ring the cash register for everyone would be helpful during these belt-tightening times! Peace, Gordy Graham

Gordy Graham: Happy New Year 2011

2011-01-05T16:55:00.000-08:00

It's a New Year - le

2011-01-04T13:52:00.001-08:00

It's a New Year - let's make it one of the best! Our time is precious, so let's use it wisely. This is a good year to make a positive difference. Let me know if I can be an asset to your efforts! Peace, Gordy Graham

The year 2010 is win

2010-12-28T13:27:00.001-08:00

The year 2010 is winding down. It's been challenging. We lost two of our closest friends, and two of Eve's family members. They leave holes in our lives. I'm ready for 2011. Let's make it a good one and do great things! Peace, Gordy Graham

Thanksgiving brings

2010-11-26T15:40:00.001-08:00

Thanksgiving brings out the best in people; free turkeys to the needy, dinners for the hungry and open doors for the homeless. It's a day to give thanks and to be thankful for all we have; it's a day to share with those less fortunate - my kind of day! I'm blessed and thankful for my wife, Eve, my family and many friends - also a profoundly good dinner! ...And thanks for being you and for all you bring to this world. Peace, Gordy Graham

Every city or agency

2010-11-12T13:29:00.001-08:00

Every city or agency I've worked with over the years is special. However El Palo Alto in California's Bay Area, will always hold a unique place in my memories for its special people, great heart and outstanding accomplishments. People change, but the desire for continuous improvement is alive and well in E. Palo Alto!. Peace, Gordy Graham

Keeping your vision

2010-11-10T10:25:00.001-08:00

Keeping your vision for the future, and a clear picture of current reality, can be challenging at times, but the gap between the two is what creates the motivation needed to keep on keepin' on! Peace, Gordy Graham

Hindsight is always

2010-11-05T13:55:00.001-07:00

Hindsight is always 20/20. It's filled with would'ves, could'ves and should'ves. There's a concept that has great merit: "deliberate preparation for a predetermined outcome." There's no free lunch. As a great athlete once told me, "Game day is the day before the game." Take nothing for granted. Prepare to win. Preparation plus opportunity equals success! Peace, Gordy Graham

Hindsight is always

2010-11-05T13:50:00.001-07:00

Election day! Eve an

2010-11-02T16:38:00.001-07:00

Election day! Eve and I mailed in our ballots last week, so it's just a matter of waiting now for the results. For so many years elections held very little interest for me. Now I find myself extremely concerned with who is chosen to represent our city, state and country. If labels applied I would be considered a liberal. However, there are issues where I am quite the opposite. The person running for office, not whether they're Democrat, Republican or Independent, is more important to me than his or her political affiliation. Two politicians from my state of Washington that I always admired are Dan Evans, a Republican, and Boothe Gardner, a Democrat. It does seem that the Democratic position on most issues is closer to my own views. Equal access to opportunities, honesty, fairness, optimistic view of the future, independent thinker, not controlled by the money, a commitment to keep jobs in this country - these are the qualities I'm looking for. One person can make a difference, and each vote counts. Peace, Gordy Graham

It's Monday night, N

2010-11-01T19:49:00.001-07:00

It's Monday night, November 1st. Tomorrow we have the opportunity and the feedom - paid for by the blood of Patriots - to cast our ballot for the people we feel will best advocate for those issues that we support. Newspapers, radio and the Goliath of the media and the tube have been bombarding our living rooms with ads - paid for by the candidates? Not really! The media ads are funded by groups that have the most to gain by getting a candidate elected. In my humble opinion, the candidate with the bucks to hire the best writers, the most ad time and the largest and highest paid staff will be most likely to win. Once in a decade or so there's an upset. I'd really like to see a couple tomorrow, but I've only got one vote. Fortunately, my wife Eve and I are usually on the same page. Money talks, but the Washington Huskies beat U.S.C.; anything can happen. Get out and vote! Peace, Gordy Graham

Maintaining good men

2010-11-01T16:25:00.001-07:00

Maintaining good mental health when things are positive is no challenge; it's when times get tough that it takes discipline. I've found that the glass half full is more encouraging than the glass half empty. My humble opinion. Peace, Gordy

There are so many go

2010-10-29T12:07:00.001-07:00

There are so many good, caring people in our cities and states that keep providing services and support in spite of the continuous political battles that fill the air waves. How you can character assassinate someone and then have lunch together is bizarre in my humble opinion! ...But I guess that's politics! Peace, Gordy Graham

I'm not ready for th

2010-10-09T21:25:00.001-07:00

I'm not ready for the change of season! The summer was too short and we are already deep into fall. Time seems to speed up, and there's so much that needs doing and you'e trying to change the world! I think I'll just step back and enjoy life as it unfolds, enjoy my wife and partner, Eve, and continue to make my little contribution to imporve things in the world while recognizing that there are many others on the same journey. Peace, Gordy Graham

It's amazing how muc

2010-10-07T23:20:00.001-07:00

It's amazing how much time we spend in the Circle of Concern! This is the area where we have no control over the outcome, i.e., the weather, or whether our plane will be on time, etc. I always come back to my Circle of Influence, and ask myself what I can do about it, then take the necessary action if it's within my Circle of Influence, or let it go if it's outside. I sometimes find myself spending too much time in the Circle of Concern, however I always recognize that I have a choice! Peace, Gordy Graham

Humility is a strang

2010-10-06T09:54:00.001-07:00

Humility is a strange thing. The minute you think you've got it, you've lost it. - Unknown Peace, Gordy Graham

I attended a 2-1/2 d

2010-10-04T10:26:00.001-07:00

I attended a 2-1/2 day seminar over the weekend, taught by Lou Tice. This is the seminar that impacted my life 38 years ago. There were 300 or so participants from all across the world. It always amazes me how relevant the same concepts are today. The way we think has a direct correlation on how well our life works. This is as true today as it was all those years ago. Truth is truth, and it's timeless. Going through a session as a participant again is always a good reminder. I'm in Chicago on Wednesday doing an event for a company there. I'll do a better job because of this weekend. It's a good reminder to think about what you think about! Peace, Gordy Graham

While I was out for

2010-09-29T21:39:00.001-07:00

While I was out for my daily (almost) walk, I was thinking about all of the travel I've done over the years. I've flown, just on United, a million and a half miles since they started the mileage program. There's a song with the lyrics, "I've been everywhere man." However it's generally in and out, airports, hotels and conference rooms. The only times I actually visit an area, as a rule, is when my wife, Eve, travels with me. Last week I was in Halifax, Nova Scotia. Got in at night, car to the hotel, conference center, car to the airport and home. They told me Nova Scotia is a beautiful place. I've been there now, but haven't seen much of it! However, I love what I do and plan to stay places a little longer when I have the opportunity. When I look back at my life - 17 years in prison, a year on bread and water - it seems more like fiction. What a blessing it is to be in the game. I never forget where I came from, though, or miss a chance to visit men and women in prison whenever I can. Peace, Gordy Graham

Every day's a new da

2010-09-29T17:34:00.001-07:00

Every day's a new day. It's filled with choices. I choose to make it a day to enjoy being in the game! I choose to take a minute counting my blessings, to let my wife know how important she is in my life, to call a few friends, write a bit and plan our new TUESDAYS WITH GORDY teleconferences that I'm collaborating on with Inventive Productions and R.J. McHatton. Hope you'll plan to join me when we're up and running! Peace, Gordy Graham

Nova Scotia was grea

2010-09-27T13:34:00.001-07:00

Nova Scotia was great in spite of airports and airline seats! The Mechanical Contractors Association knows how to combine fun and business. They had a Scottish theme and were in kilts and tams the night before my presentation. I'm looking forward to seeing pictures from the event. We will be doing a weekly on-line teaching; "Tuesdays with Gordy" should be a good focusing tool. I look forward to making a positive difference in people's lives! Peace, Gordy Graham

My good friend and p

2010-09-12T09:48:00.001-07:00

My good friend and partner, R.J. McHatton, and I are "on the road again" this week, so I'll be out of the box for a while. I'll be back in touch at the end of the week. On Wednesday, the 22nd I head for Nova Scotia for a session with the Mechanical Contractors Assn. They're a great group and the little time I've spent with them has been very enjoyable. Stay well! Peace, Gordy Graham

When I listen to the

2010-09-10T11:34:00.001-07:00

When I listen to the news (which I rarely do!) it seems to me there's too many people reading their own press releases. The media can create a somebody out of a nobody (and just as quickly tear them down again). There are too many getting too much face time, with too little of value to say, in my humble opinion! Peace, Gordy Graham

The sheriff of a lar

2010-09-07T20:03:00.001-07:00

The sheriff of a large jail system was asked his opinion on a critical issue facing his department. His response was worth considering. He said, "I'm not entitled to voice my opinion, because people listen to me." This is a good reminder for this writer. I sometimes make statements that don't reflect my perspective on an issue, and people assume it is! I often have to eat my words, and that ain't good! Think first, speak second. Peace, Gordy Graham

Every day is special

2010-09-05T11:08:00.001-07:00

Every day is special! It's nice that we set aside a day to acknowledge labor. Someone is responsible for all of the things we take for granted. The cars we drive, the food we eat, the roads and rails we travel on, our homes, entertainment, etc. Man, can we thank all those responsible in one day? I don't think so, but it's a good reminder! Peace, Gordy Graham

Gordon Graham video:

2010-09-04T02:12:00.001-07:00

Gordon Graham video: "Thank You East Palo Alto"

R.J. McHatton has co

2010-09-02T09:38:00.001-07:00

R.J. McHatton has conducted a ton of interviews capturing David Lewis's accomplishments. He is doing this on his own time and with no financial support. R.J.'s work will allow people across the U.S. to share in David's unbelievable journey. Thanks, R.J.! Peace, Gordy Graham

We conducted two 3-h

2010-09-01T11:03:00.001-07:00

We conducted two 3-hour seminars in E. Palo Alto, CA, last week. This is the home of David Lewis, my long time friend who was hot & killed in June. It will take a while for the recovery process, but there are some quality people who will keep David's legacy alive. Peace, Gordy Graham

It's important to go

2010-08-29T09:37:00.001-07:00

It's important to goal-set THROUGH, not TO! Don't just goal-set to get a job, goal-set to be great at performing it. See yourself both to, and past, the initial goal so your drive and energy stay with you. Peace, Gordy Graham

We are all unique hu

2010-08-21T00:50:00.001-07:00

We are all unique human beings, but more alike than different. Each of us deserves to be respected, and to have equal access to opportunities. Peace, Gordy

The third major barr

2010-08-14T00:26:00.001-07:00

The third major barrier to improving our enjoyment of life's journey is attitudes. It's amazing how attitudes that have no factual basis can cause us to lock out many of life's pleasures. These attitudes include people, places, food and activities that we may never have experienced! Try new foods, meet new people, attempt new activities - stretch yourself. You may find that you have locked out some very interesting and worthwhile experiences that could enrich your life. Peace, Gordy

My wife, Eve, and I

2010-08-08T07:25:00.001-07:00

My wife, Eve, and I stopped at Marymoor Park for a walk (stroll) in what is a beautiful spot; nice well kept trails, trees, shrubs, birds, squirrels and occasionally a little rabbit. Last night as I lay in bed, my mind went back in time to an 8 x 10 prison cell, and my dreams of being free to take that simple walk. Freedom is so often taken for granted. My thanks and gratitude to all those who have worked to make a walk in the park such a tremendous gift. -- Peace, Gordy

Make it a point to t

2010-08-06T04:25:00.001-07:00

Make it a point to think of three people you haven't talked to in the last 30 days and give each one a call, or at least an e-mail. Do this for the next ten days. Make the effort a want-to, not a have-to! Peace, Gordy

Awareness is the fir

2010-08-05T11:20:00.001-07:00

Awareness is the first step to improvement. Be pro-active, don't wait until the wheel falls off! Stay in touch and we will see you at one of our Road Show events in the near future. Peace, Gordy

I'm not young enough

2010-08-04T04:23:00.001-07:00

I'm not young enough to know everything.

I'm looking forward

2010-08-02T13:28:00.001-07:00

I'm looking forward to being on the road again, seeing old friends and meeting new ones! The three-hour live presentations will stimulate new ideas and motivate each of us to increase our efforts to make a difference, whether in our own lives and/or in the world. See you there! Peace, Gordy

Had a great time tal

2010-07-30T14:57:00.001-07:00

Had a great time talking to the folks at Grainger's in Kansas City. Preparation is the key to long-term success. Peace, Gordy

Gordy Graham on "Bre

2010-07-06T12:17:00.001-07:00

Gordy Graham on "Breaking Barriers"

Gordy Graham on the

2010-07-03T09:35:00.001-07:00

Gordy Graham on the Power of Words

I just updated my bl

2010-06-24T19:44:00.001-07:00

I just updated my blogs and facebook. Warm regards, Gordy

David Lewis, Cathy Crosslin, and Gordy Graham

2010-06-10T12:46:00.000-07:00

David Lewis My Friend

2010-06-10T12:45:00.000-07:00

There's a huge hole in my heart this day. My partner, friend and a big piece of what I'm about was shot and killed yesterday. David Lewis: East Palo Alto, California; a champion for disconnected populations. An advocate for men and women in prisons across the country, and a voice for positive change - shot in the back in San Mateo, California.

His legacy will live on, but his presence will be greatly missed from California to New York, and in other parts of the world as well. Those of us who were blessed to spend time with David on the Misouri River in Montana will feel his presence as we reminisce around a campfire for years to come. His dedication to AA and NA found him at meetings in Wolf Creek, Montana! In my 35 years fishing the rivers in Montana, David set a precidence. He's the first fisherman I've met that went to AA meetings during a fishing trip! But that was my friend, David Lewis. He was one of a kind and I will miss him dearly.

Peace,

Gordon Graham

Corresponding with friends by Gordy Graham

2010-06-09T11:05:00.001-07:00

Corresponding with Friends
by Gordy Graham

It's unusual when you receive an actual handwritten letter in the mail in today's world of texts, e-mail and cell phones. However, I get mail from men and women in prisons on an almost daily basis. I do my best, along with my wife Eve, to answer each correspondence. There's little I can do other than offer encouragement and suggest that change is possible and it's a do-it-yourself project!

Gordy Graham on Patience

2010-06-01T00:03:00.001-07:00

Patience?

When communication breaks down, trust is the next thing to go. We have a tendency to begin to withdraw from each other. The longer this goes on the harder it is to close the gap. If I have a situation where this occurs, I try not to let the day end without making an effort to resolve the issue. However, we are all unique individuals and my wife, Eve, needs a little more time! So if this happens, and occasionally it does, it offers me the opportunity to work on patience – not one of my strong suits!

Peace,

Gordon Graham

I am now a Blogger

2010-05-30T22:57:00.000-07:00

I am now a Blogger
by
Gordon Graham

Technology has finally forced me to enter the world of "Bloggers." Is that the word for people who Blog? Phones are being pushed aside by texting, and the web has made face-to-face (live) communication a rarity.

Progress can be painful for those of us who enjoy the human to human interaction. I've been a public speaker all of my (legal) career. The energy and creativity that evolves from live interaction would be hard to duplicate through the internet. (That's probably a point that could be argued by "Techies." Is that the word for people who are addicted to technology)

Anyway, I'm going to enter this highway to the world to offer insights that may add value to people challenged by a rapidly changing world.

Affirmation for the day: I believe in myself and I believe that I can make a difference!

Peace,

Gordy

Goal Setting with Gordon Graham

2010-05-30T22:48:00.000-07:00

Memorial Day

2010-05-30T22:43:00.000-07:00

Memorial Day
by
Gordon Graham

Memorial Day is a reminder to all of us that, “Freedom isn’t free.” Just in my lifetime, thousands of brave men and women have given their lives to preserve our right to live in a free society. We take so many of these freedoms for granted, and yet even today they are challenged by leaders who would deny us the right to choose our own destiny. A free society cannot survive without fair and just laws. Laws that do not discriminate based on gender, race, color, economics or political persuasion.

We should be able to disagree without being disagreeable. However, with the awesome power of technology, talking heads can polarize a country, a community and even a family. We have evolved into character assassination when a misspoken phrase can destroy a candidate’s chance of success. The truth can be slowly buried by airtime, and the bombastic attacks that play in living rooms every day across the country.

When I’m giving a presentation I have a tendency to misspeak, to say something that could be taken out of context. However, I can apologize and move on; the media doesn’t capture the error and play it over and over to make me look like something I’m not!

Television is a great resource for entertainment, news, weather, etc. It has control buttons that allow you to select stations and adjust volume, but the control I really like is the “off” button! So when the vitriol starts I change stations or hit the “off” switch. That really helps my mental health!

One of our most powerful freedoms is to choose, every two to four years, those who represent us in congress. We live in a diverse society. The United States offers the same freedoms, the same rights to all citizens that choose to obey the laws of a free society. We have a responsibility to exercise this freedom with the highest regard for all.

Have a peaceful, thoughtful – Free! - Memorial Day!

Peace, Gordon Graham

Communication

2010-05-30T22:41:00.000-07:00

Communication
by
Gordon Graham

Technology offers so many tools for communication, and yet it’s still our biggest challenge. Faxing, texting, e-mails, blogs, Twitter, etc., have almost eliminated face-to-face conversation. There’s something about a handshake, looking another person in the eye, reading all of the non-verbal messages that are an important part of truly understanding another person that’s been all but lost with the advent of technology. However, whether we like it or not that’s the world we have created.

Peace, Gordon Graham

The Power To Change the World

2010-05-30T22:37:00.000-07:00

The Power to Change the World
by Gordon Graham

The power to change the world? What an overwhelming thought! Who would be so audacious as to even consider such an impossible task? Certainly not yours truly! However, when I started the process of changing myself, miraculous things began to take place. My world suddenly got larger, people seemed friendlier, opportunities were more abundant and I realized that when you change yourself, you change the world.

That is an empowering awareness. For so many years I was stalled in neutral waiting for someone to give me a chance, to find me a job, to discover what a "helluva guy" I am! The phone stayed silent, the doorbell never rang and the mail carried bills and great savings on everything from soap to lawn mowers. How could people be so short sighted? How could they miss such a talent?

I've had many people come into my life who have opened doors for me. They gave me opportunities that few with my background ever receive, but ultimately we make our own breaks. The willingness to take a chance, or perhaps it's courage - either way you've got to reach for what you want. The one absolute truth for me is that friends are the greatest gift that life offers.

I am blessed with a wealth of good friends. They range from C.E.O.'s to convicts. My wife and partner, Eve, brings honesty, integrity and balance to my life. She keeps me from getting too full of myself. So, call an old friend today. Tell someone how important they are to you. You have the power to "make someone's day!"

Peace,

Gordon Graham

Speech: International Brotherhood of Electrical Workers, Phoenix, AZ

2010-05-23T12:17:00.000-07:00

I really enjoyed speaking to about 250 members of the International Brotherhood of Electrical Workers in Phoenix, Arizona on May 21st.

The topic I spoke about was "Managing Change in Challenging Times."

Managing change both personally and professionally can be extremely difficult in today’s fast paced world. Maintaining balance as a spouse, parent, employer, employee, community leader, etc. can get a bit overwhelming at times. I talked about insights and techniques that can add some additional tools to people's tool kit of life.

Controlling your self-talk

2009-07-25T12:12:00.000-07:00

One of the most beneficial lessons in life management is to harness the power of our self-talk. As I look back at my own life, it's easy to see how my self-talk kept me caught up in the criminal justice system for most of the first 38 years of my life. My thoughts were not focused on change and I spent most of my mental energy on figuring out ways to get better at being a thief!

The impact of my self-talk was not something that was even a part of my conscious awareness. How many of us spend time thinking about what we think about? We might caution our children about thinking negative thoughts, but usually it's just a passing comment. Yet when we become aware of the influence our self-talk has on our lives, it's like a revelation! When I first encountered Lou Tice and became aware of how powerful this concept is, it changed my life. Looking back, it seems so simple, yet so few of us consider how we talk to ourselves.

There is a constant stream of self-talk that is continuously running through our minds. To the degree that the self-talk is negative or devaluing, it lowers our opinion of ourselves and takes much of the joy out of life. The self-talk that runs through a group can lower their expectations. It can be tiring to be around negative people who are always bad mouthing others and tearing down their self-esteem.

Unfortunately, in difficult times, it is easy to get caught up in a downward spiral of negative self-talk. Current reality can be challenging at times, but most of us have gotten through tough situations before. Keeping a positive outlook doesn't mean that you're weak or blind to current reality. However, that energy can be used to stimulate your creativity and allow you to stay motivated.

Change is a part of our world. It can be experienced as a problem that we have no control over, or it can be looked at as an opportunity to open up new markets and create new products and services. The self-talk that goes on in an office or a plant has direct impact on the culture that we work in.

Life isn't always easy. We hit rough spots now and then, and at those times, staying focused on what you want and controlling your self-talk can be a great help. Our mental feedback can paint a picture of what we want or what we don't want. It's a choice. We don't intentionally go around making mistakes, so there's really little value in painting a picture of the mistake. We move toward what we think about. We need to change the picture we paint if it's one we don't like or want in our lives.

A phrase that became a part of my self-talk following a mistake was, "That's not like me. Next time I intend to..." Then you paint a mental picture of what you want. When assisting others, the same techniques work: "That's not like you. I see you as...," and you paint them into a new picture. Gradually, this becomes a part of your new vocabulary. Being positive is not being soft; it creates high expectations in yourself and in others.

Becoming conscious of our self-talk can be a huge leap in awareness and awareness is the first step to change. We were all gifted with the ability to control what we think about. It's been my experience that it's more fun to think about what you want your world to look like. Positive feedback is the breakfast of champions! Look for the unique qualities that make us what we were intended to be - in yourself and in others.

I once saw a poster that showed a picture of a little child with the caption, "God didn't make no junk!" It was very simply and profoundly stated. Keep that in mind when times get a bit challenging. We're all made of strong, resilient stuff and we can get through it!

Peace,

Gordon Graham
Change Agent

The First Webinar by Instar Performance was a success!

2009-07-15T19:04:00.000-07:00

On July 9, Instar Performance conducted our first Webinar: Managing Change in Challenging Times. It was a new experience for me. I'm used to a live audience with the ability to read body language and adjust the presentation accordingly. However, that said, I was very pleased to connect with people across the country without the airports, planes and hotels! I still do live presentations, but this increases our ability to reach more people and stay in touch.

A friend of ours, who works with men and women dealing with drug and alcohol issues, used the opportunity to put me on speaker phone, allowing his group to participate as well. What a nice resource for someone working to make a difference in people's lives.

Instar will be hosting a Webinar every couple of weeks, so if you know individuals or groups who might benefit, let us know. Email us at info@instarperformance.com. The next Webinar will be on Self-Talk, that constant stream of conversation going on in our minds at all times and its power to move us toward or away from our goals and desires. This key concept also allows us to understand how to increase our circle of influence.

Take care and let Instar know how we can assist you in your efforts to improve our families and our communities.

Warm personal regards,

Gordon Graham
Change Agent
Instar Performance

Accountability

2009-07-07T17:46:00.000-07:00

For half my life, I placed the blame for my failures outside my own control. I didn't realize the impact that our thinking patterns have on our behavior. I didn't know that if you change the way you think, you change the way you act. Not just on Sundays, but every day! This was a profound truth for me.

Discovering this truth was a significant emotional event in my life and caused me to have an epiphany - that I have the power to change my life. This was the single most empowering realization of my life, and was the catalyst for turning my life totally around. I had a vision of how I could make a difference in the world, and I never looked back after that day.

The whole idea of the impact of comfort zones was illuminating. I realized that prison had become a comfort zone for me. I felt God had left a component out of me, that I didn't fit in outside prison walls. While there are some people in prison from affluent neighborhoods, they really are the exception. The majority of men and women who fill our prisons come from environments that have few opportunities, where drugs are part of the culture; there are many single parents and a high rate of poverty.

Prison is a part of the expectation for young people in these environments. There are few, if any, decent-paying jobs and they feel locked out of the American dream. Dealing drugs and stealing become part of the culture; even an aspiration. A lot of young people succeed despite the culture, but when there's nothing to lose, there's not much at risk if they get busted. When they come out of prison back into the same old, same old, it's easy to fall back into the same old haunts, same old friends and the next thing they know, they're on the chain car back to SingSing. Some escape the life, and many give back to society and work to make a difference. That's the good news.

Unfortunately, the general public is fed the bad news. Only the heinous crimes get front page. These visuals play over and over in people's living rooms from New York to Seattle. It gradually creates an illusion that everyone locked up is a public safety threat. There are tons of men and women doing good things, but they never, or rarely, make the news.

I recently visited our women's prison in Washington. The cost to the taxpayer is $42,000 per year per inmate. The prison is a better environment than many of these women have on the streets. If we invested half of that amount of money on assistance, childcare, etc., most of those women would never be in prison, or could make it on the outside. Only a small percentage of these women are an actual public safety threat.

Our approach to public safety needs a major overhaul, however when we are talking about threatening people's jobs, change becomes a challenging endeavor.

We have created a system where success is built on failure, a system where the product is people. What a paradox. Maybe someday... We can only hope.

Peace,

Gordon Graham
Change Agent

Technology

2009-06-21T21:55:00.000-07:00

As I've traveled across the country, talking with people from many sectors of society, the common theme is change. How do we equip ourselves and the people we work with to respond to the myriad of changes taking place in our world? The reality of a global economy and the speed of technological innovations can be overwhelming, especially to older generations. The challenges and transistions we all face are greater than ever before in our history.

These changes have created amazing communication tools with the ability to contact hundreds of people with one transmission from your chair. For some, these changes are positive things that make their life easier and more fulfilling. For others, life gets more complicated. From a business standpoint, it is extremely valuable to have instant access to business associates and clients around the world. The ability to set schedules and include others in business meetings and decision-making improves engagement of co-workers and collaborators. There is much to be said for the positive features of technology.

The downside inherent in email, faxes and text messages is that we lose the intimacy of a handshake, and the ability to read non-verbal communication. I'm a fan of technology and what it can do to unite and inspire people; having said that, I still treasure the intimacy of human-to-human contact. I'm talking about a hug, a handshake or a fist-bump with a cantankerous union leader or a reserved plant manager. That makes my day! It exemplifies for me that we all want the same thing - to be acknowledged, respected and involved. My goal in life is to connect the disconnected and improve the planet we all share.

Peace,

Gordon Graham
Change Agent

Gordon Graham on STAYING FOCUSED

2009-06-15T10:41:00.000-07:00

Gordon Graham on STAYING FOCUSED

This is an interesting time for people in every sector of our society. It’s a time that challenges our ability to maintain our focus on what is truly important in our lives.

The bankruptcy of General Motors was a heart-wrenching event for yours truly. I’ve had a relationship with GM and the U.A.W. for thirty-odd years. Many of my close friends work for GM. They range from regional directors to plant managers, from union leaders to men and women on the production line. The impact that just one plant closure can have on the economy of a community is devastating. Many of the General Motors plants are the largest employers in small and mid-sized cities. The tax revenue provides the resources for education, social services and many other community needs. When a plant closes so do many small businesses that depend upon the work force as their customer base.

Change is a constant in today’s rapidly evolving world. My hope is that our leadership will recognize the importance of keeping decent jobs in our communities. We all recognize that the world keeps getting smaller with the increase of technology and the emerging global economy. The free trade system as it has played out has not been a fair trade system for America’s workers, and our current health care system alone puts us at a tremendous disadvantage.

Leadership needs to understand that the men and women who build our cars and trucks don’t need an edge, they just need a chance to compete on a level playing field.

Peace,

Gordon Graham, Change Agent
www.ggco.com

Fair Trade

2009-06-12T21:37:00.000-07:00

Change is a constant in our lives, and as the speed of change increases, it becomes more challenging to stay ahead of the curve. The days of lifetime employment seem to be a thing of the past. Flexibility, creativity and entrepreneurship are required to stay in the game.

Since the early 70's, it has been apparent that smaller, more fuel-efficient vehicles were the future of the automobile industry. The bankruptcy of General Motors is the result of leadership without vision. However, it's the men and women who work in the plants who suffer most. The workforce in the U.S. is comparable to any in the world, but they compete on an unfair playing field. We need a change in how we establish guidelines in a global economy. To produce a product off-shore at $2.00 an hour, and then bring it back to the U.S. and compete against products made here is unfair. The cost of health care alone makes us unable to compete against a country that provides its citizens with universal health care.

At Instar Performance, our curriculum has been a resource to assist individuals, organizations and communities in taking a pro-active approach to the changes we're all experiencing. The ability to anticipate the impact of a global economy on the marketplace helps us better prepare for a new reality. When the economy suffers, the purchasing power of the consumer is impacted; this in turn as an effect on the tax dollars collected, which ultimately has a huge ripple-effect on people's lives. It's always our most important services that suffer, i.e. education, health care, and the most vulnerable members of society. We seem to lack the foresight to anticipate the impact that change has on our economy.

Having been a boxer in my early years, it would be like asking me to fight with one hand tied behind my back! There's no "free trade" if it isn't "fair trade." How many more major backruptcies will it take to come to an agreement that levels the playing field for our workers? My empathy is with the workers on the plant floor whose jobs are at risk because of decisions being made in corporate boardrooms, far from the production lines.

Peace,

Gordon Graham
Change Agent

Gordon Graham on "In the Game!"

2009-04-27T21:18:00.000-07:00

Gordon Graham: In the Game!

As the transition from Gordon Graham & Co. to Instar Performance evolves, I want you to know that G.G. is still in the game. I’m healthy and involved in assisting individuals and organizations to improve relationships and managing changes that contribute to a better world.

Next week Cat and I will be at a Ford Motor plant in Kansas City. We’re working with a management team that’s intent on keeping jobs in their community. It’s critical that we maximize our skills and abilities to be the best that we can be in this global economy. The strategies that were once considered “soft skills” are now understood to be a critical component in keeping jobs in our plants. It’s the collective habits, attitudes, beliefs and expectations of the work force that make us competitive. It’s the ability to engage the hearts and minds of individuals on the line that will help keep jobs in our communities. A non-threatening learning experience creates the awareness that each of us plays a vital part in this goal.

It’s important that when we ask people to change we offer new tools. Each of us needs to see the W.I.I.F.M. (what’s in it for me?). We all work for our own reasons; perhaps it’s building a better life for our families, vacation property, a new car, keeping jobs in the plant, etc. It could also be as basic as “just” making a positive difference in the world. Every day brings new opportunities, so stay in the game!

Be at peace,

Gordon Graham

www.ggco.com

Gordon Graham on Change in a Global Economy

2009-04-24T17:39:00.000-07:00

Gordon Graham: Change in a Global Economy

Change is the only constant in our world. With the increasing impact of a global economy and the explosion of technology it’s easy to feel out of control. Over the past 30 years I’ve worked with both labor and management, especially in industrial plants. This may be the hardest hit work force in the country. There is no simple solution for men and women who have spent their adult life working in a plant that now has no future. When a plant closes the whole community suffers. It’s hard to imagine the devastation that occurs until you visit a city that was thriving and is now surrounded by empty factories and boarded up storefronts. Automobile plants with 17,000 employees where fathers, grandfathers, sons and daughters worked are now vacant shells.

How do people recover from this kind of setback? The steps a company takes in order to compete are out of the individual’s control. The game has changed! The abilities and skills of the American worker are as good as or better than any in the world; however the playing field is not level. We have companies and organizations competing with others that are not saddled with health care and legacy costs, and that pay workers a quarter of the wages of the American worker.

The good news is that we can still compete by producing quality products and by engaging the hearts and creative talents of our employees. We can develop constructive, high performance cultures that can counteract the seeming disadvantages we face. In order to do this we need to engage the creative ideas and energy of the work force. This requires a compensation system that is more equitable and is transparent. Giving huge corporate bonuses to CEO’s when the company is losing money is unconscionable! When times are tough everyone needs to share the burden, and when times are good everyone should share in the rewards.

A final thought on trust: We need to build a culture where trust is the bedrock. We have gone through a period where greed and corruption have destroyed our trust in financial institutions and in corporate leadership. Talk shows, politicians and the media bombard the airways with character assassinations and accusations of every kind based on someone’s political views. It’s out of control and embarrassing to most average Americans. When “Joe the Plumber” gets more airtime than health care, we need a reality check!

Peace,

Gordon Graham, Change Agent

www.ggco.com

Gordon Graham: Daily Affirmation

2009-03-27T08:06:00.000-07:00

Daily Affirmation: "Today is the first day of the rest of my life and I feel grateful and fortunate for each new day."

Daily Affirmation:

2009-03-27T08:04:00.000-07:00

Daily Affirmation: "I am open to new ideas and eagerly seek out ways to improve my business and personal life."

Gordon Graham: New York! New York!

2009-03-27T07:58:00.000-07:00

New York! New York!
by Gordon Graham

I love New York! However I learned this week that it is so much more enjoyable when you’re not fighting a major head cold! My colleague and I were consulting in a specialty paper plant near Saratoga Springs. I spent the day speaking to all the employees in the plant, starting at 5:30 a.m. eastern time. Do you realize that is 2:30 a.m. in Seattle? The final group session ended at 4:30 p.m.

With this client, both the company and the union recognize that they need to be the best they can be to survive in today’s economy. There’s no room in these challenging times to allow a ‘disconnect’ between union and management leadership. Leadership must find a way to engage their people, keeping their energies focused on turning out the best end-product possible in order to keep jobs in our communities.

I flew out of Albany and met Cat Crosslin, my long-time associate, in New York City. New York is a city that will capture your heart if you like a fast-paced, high energy environment. Sure enough, the city got Cat! She had an opportunity to see the play, “Wicked,” on Broadway while I was hard at work in Albany. We then met with writer and publicist Judith Katz, who is a very talented, innovative and energetic woman. I was very impressed with both her talent and her heart.

Gordon Graham & Company is going through a major transition here in Seattle presently, not unlike many companies. However, we will still be doing our best to assist individuals and organizations in managing the changes these challenging times are demanding. The letters, phone calls (my style of communication), e-mails, texts, etc., that we receive keep us motivated to continue to make a positive difference in the world. Thanks for your continued support, and thanks for the contributions you are making to your communities.

Peace,

Gordon Graham
Gordon Graham & Co.
www.ggco.com

Gordon Graham: Common Ground

2009-03-26T23:17:00.000-07:00

Common Ground

I was in Memphis, Tennessee last week at a conference that brought management and unions together to explore ways to improve relationships and increase competitiveness in our rapidly changing world. This conference was a collaborative effort by the University of Tennessee, state, federal and local governments, as well as labor organizations and corporate leaders. It offered an open forum for sharing ideas, plus a variety of workshops and speakers brought in to unlock awareness and investigate avenues to becoming more competitive in the international arena.

The sponsors of the conference were overwhelmed with the response and participation and overall, it exceeded everyone’s expectations. People were able to take back new ideas and a renewed sense of hope to their organizations and agencies.

Although several groups have been able to keep this energy alive in spite of tough economic conditions, we need more of these activities. Only with a concentrated effort by both labor unions and management teams will we be able to keep well-paying jobs in our communities. Organized labor has a major role to play in improving workplace culture and this conference was a great start to a complicated challenge. The days of “us versus them” needs to take its place in history and it will take the ingenuity and commitment of all parties to keep jobs in this country. The men and women on the line need to be engaged and allowed to bring their creativity and energy to the party, while management needs to open communication and solicit input from hourly employees.

My thanks go to the sponsors and coordinators for inviting me to participate in such a valuable event.

Peace,

Gordon Graham
Gordon Graham & Co.
www.ggco.com

Gordon Graham: Corrupt Judges

2009-03-01T11:33:00.001-08:00

Corrupt Judges in Pennsylvania
by Gordon Graham

A recent article exposed two judges in Luzerne County, Pennsylvania who were getting financial kick-backs for sentencing young people to private prisons. For more on the article check out this link: http://www.commondreams.org/headline/2009/02/13-3

This outrageous and unjust activity is yet another example of just how corrupt people in power can become. It’s also an example of how vulnerable people are when they are caught in the web of an unjust system. Young people are especially at the mercy of the system when they are without competent representation.

Fortunately the Pennsylvania situation is not the norm. Most Judges are honest and administer their duties in honorable ways. However it causes concern and raises the question; “How many young men and women have been unjustly sentenced by these two corrupt judges?” If I was serving time in prison I would want a review of my case. The criminal justice system has never really been “just!” This case just exposes how unjust it can become when we blindly trust in the integrity of those in power.

I feel empathy for my friends in Pennsylvania who play by the rules and work to demonstrate that the criminal justice system is, in fact, just. Corruption by people in power should carry the maximum penalty, administered by judges who realize that the damage done by these two will have a negative impact in prisons, jails and courtrooms for years.

Gordon Graham
www.ggco.com

Gordon Graham: The Real Deal!

2009-02-15T09:54:00.000-08:00

THE REAL DEAL!

by Gordon Graham

Today I had lunch with Lou Tice, Chairman and Founder of The Pacific Institute. It’s always enjoyable to spend time with Louis. His seminar was the catalyst for turning my life around 38 years go. We don’t get together as often these days but I always come away with new ideas and am motivated to speed up the process of improving the world I live in.

I was reminded of one of the first questions that went through my mind when I initially went through the Achieving Your Potential seminar all those years ago. “Why didn’t I have access to this information when I was sixteen?” Maybe I wouldn’t have listened, but maybe I would have. Imagine the savings to society, myself, and my family if these concepts had been available to me then.

By the time I was introduced to T.P.I.’s process I had spent 17 years in and out of maximum security prisons, committed a number of crimes, been involved in riots, spent 365 consecutive days on bread and water, been shot, and was recognized as the leader in the prison culture. I have no idea what all of that cost the taxpayer. I do know that there’s a good chance that none of these things would have happened if I had been aware of the process that is offered by The Pacific Institute.

Now here’s the good news! T.P.I. has developed a process for youth called PX2. I had a chance to preview the content and delivery of this program a couple of days ago. It’s the real deal! It reaches young people where they are and with a delivery system that relates to their world. There’s no way to measure the impact that this type of education can have on our youth. But if it keeps one youngster from taking a wrong turn in life, or gives them tools to live a more fulfilled life, you can’t put a dollar figure on it.

PX2 could be the key to helping change the culture in our inner cities. It may also keep some youngsters from making the kind of decisions that kept me trapped in a destructive lifestyle for a good part of my early years. Hindsight is always 20/20. There’s no guarantee that something like PX2 would have changed the course of my life. However, I would have liked the opportunity to make that choice. Every young person should have that opportunity. They just might discover how great they really are!

An old Chinese proverb goes, “If you cut an apple in half anyone can count the number of seeds in an apple, but no one can count the apples in a seed.” When the time is right, the mind is open and the seeds get a little nourishment, great things can happen! PX2 is full of seeds. We just need more planters and a little more nourishment to start the growth process. (See what a lunch with Louis can do?!)

Peace,

Gordy Graham

www.ggco.com

Gordon Graham: Michael Phelps--Decisions have Consequences

2009-02-10T23:15:00.000-08:00

DECISIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES: A High Profile Example

We’ve all been young at some point, and there’s a good chance that we’ve made a mistake or two in the process of becoming mature adults.

Some of the mistakes were so serious that we had to learn our lessons the hard way.

The media frenzy surrounding Michael Phelps' lapse of judgment is out of proportion to the event itself. Obviously he made a bad decision, but the amount of attention it’s been getting far surpasses that given to Wall Street executives who have ruined many people’s lives by their dishonest acts.

The daily drive-by shootings and gang violence is generally back page news.

How fair is it to destroy a young man’s career as a result of one instance of smoking pot?

His career has been damaged, and the negative publicity has cost him endorsements and great embarrassment.

It would be much more valuable if we would focus on the gang activity and violence in our communities.

We all should look in the mirror before passing judgment on a young man who has raised the bar for athletes in this country, and brought great pride to the USA during the Olympics.

Michael Phelps made a poor decision. The lesson for him, and for young people in general, is that the decisions we make have consequences. To decide to smoke dope or commit illegal acts can damage a career, cause great personal embarrassment or worse.

The short term gratification is never worth the long term pain.

Hopefully, for Michael Phelps, this is a lesson learned. He knows he made a mistake. I suggest we all be big enough to let it go at that.

Peace,

Gordy Graham

www.ggco.com

Gordy Graham: What do I want?

2009-02-10T23:05:00.000-08:00

What Do I want?

by Gordon Graham

When working to change behavior, whether for ourselves or others, it‘s important to keep the focus on what we want the end result to look like. It’s easy to point out the inappropriate behavior, but this has a tendency to reinforce what we don’t want. What would it look like without the problem?

When we make an error or mistake we need to learn from it. Saying to ourselves, “that’s not like me,” and then, “the next time I intend to…,” shuts off all the judgment and puts the focus back on what you want. The same technique works with young people as well as other adults. Instead of, “that’s like you, you’re always late,” stop and respond with, “that’s not like you; I see you as a person who is very responsible.” Then ask what you might do to assist in making a positive change.

It’s also important to catch people doing things right, and when you do, offer positive feedback, e.g., “I really appreciate that you’re such a reliable person; you are very important to our success.”

Don’t expect immediate change, but keep focusing on what you want. Invite others to have input, and let them know that each of us can make a difference.

Peace,

Gordy Graham

www.ggco.com

Gordon Graham: Thoughts on Change

2009-02-05T21:56:00.001-08:00

Thoughts on Change
by Gordon Graham

Everyday I receive a number of letters from men and women in state and federal prisons from across the United States and Canada. Generally the letter is response to one of our video based programs that are utilized in prisons as a resource to assist inmates in changing their approach to life. Often the letter is just a thank you for creating an approach to change that they can relate to, at other times it’s someone wanting a magic pill.

The one common theme is a desire to break the cycle that keeps them caught up in the system. I’ve been at this for 38 years and still struggle with how to respond in a way that is helpful, but that also deals with reality. There is one truism that cuts through all the rationalization and blame fixing. If you stop doing whatever it is that puts you in prison, the cops will stop arresting you. However, it took me a long time to internalize that message.

There are some practical ideas that can trigger a change. When you, deep down in your soul, make a commitment to do whatever it takes to improve your life, your thoughts and energy change. No one knows when this happens but you. The way that you think impacts how you act. So when you change the way you think your life changes.

Principals drive behavior. If you honestly look at the principals that you hold to be true it will give you a starting point for change. A principle of unconditional honesty has been my guiding principle for the past 38 years.

Accepting accountability for who you are and for where you are in life is a strong foundation for accepting accountability for your future. I recognize that life isn’t always fair. Things occur that are out of our control, but if we come back to our center of influence and ask the question, “What can I do about it?” It will put you back in the driver’s seat.

Affirmations have been a tool that I’ve used for many years. When I neglect using affirmations life doesn’t work as well. The other thing that I do is stay in touch with a Higher Power. This is personal to me and I respect other people’s right to believe as they choose.

I also stay focused on what I want in my life. Sometimes it’s necessary to see through the pain to the pleasure in our lives.

Peace – Gordy Graham

Affirmations
1.) I believe in myself and I believe I make a difference.
2.) I believe that good things happen to me and I take all setbacks as temporary.
3.) I treat all people with dignity and respect.

Gordon Graham on "Patience"

2009-02-05T21:53:00.001-08:00

Patience
by Gordon Graham

Patience has never been one of my strengths! This article is written on February 2, 2009 and Obama hasn’t turned the country around yet! He’s been in office for almost two weeks and the economy still sucks! How long does it take to rebuild a broken system? When you’ve dug yourself into a deep hole the first step is to stop digging! I think Obama has managed to stop most of the digging and he appears to have a competent team assembled to begin the recovery process.

When you look at the massive challenges we face as a nation it will take all of the creativity and talents of all of our leaders. A foreclosure on your home feels just as painful to a democrat as it does to a republican. When you loose your job it’s discouraging to listen to leadership playing politics with your future.

We need our elected officials to focus on solving the problems we face as a nation! To oppose a possible solution because it is presented by a democrat or a republican is unfair to the men and women who are struggling to stay afloat. I also recognize that each of us ahs a part to play in bringing about positive change.

I watched the Super Bowl on Sunday. It was a demonstration of two teams focused on winning. There was no withholding your support because you didn’t like the play that was called! The offense, defense, special teams, coaches and support people all had one goal, to win the game!

How powerful would our leadership be if they came together around one goal? There’s a time for politics, but this is not that time. We need our leadership to come together around putting this country back on track. We need jobs, we need to stop the foreclosures and offer a bridge so people can stay in their homes, we need to hold banks accountable for their use of taxpayers dollars and we need leadership that will support solutions to these challenges rather than oppose good ideas because it didn’t come from their party. Lastly I guess we all need a bit of patience!

Tips
1.) When you lock-on to current reality, it’s difficult to stay motivated. We need to see through the current situation to the end result we desire.

2.) Time is the only thing that we all share equally. Twenty-four hours regardless of wealth or position. So invest it wisely based on your priorities in life, i.e. family, friends, health, career, etc.

3.) If we look back in our lives we will find times when we were faced with difficult challenges and we got through them and recognize that we will get through today’s challenges as well. There are times when patience is a virtue.

Gordy Graham: A New Way

2009-01-25T22:48:00.000-08:00

A New Way
by Gordon Graham

It feels like a new day! The past is a part of history, the future remains a mystery, but the present is what is. We need to deal with “what is,” but the focus should be on what can be.

Every day I become more aware of the rapid changes that are occurring across the country.

Much of the change is driven by technology. In reading, hearing and seeing the political approach to the election of 2008, we have seen a dramatic difference in campaign strategies.

Obama was directly in touch with voters from Oregon to Delaware. His use of the web, Face Book, the Blackberry and all the other internet connections kept him in touch with you and me at the grass roots level. He’s someone that most of us felt could understand our challenges, hopes and dreams. McCain seemed to be a throwback to a different time in history. He seemed to be talking to an audience that wasn’t aware that the world has changed. We are a diverse society, no longer able to fit old solutions to the world’s problems of today; a society that is coming to recognize that diplomacy is at least as important as military strength. McCain’s service to this country is something that every
American can admire. However, it’s a new day and we need a new way if we are to regain our image as a leader of the free world.

I have great respect for Obama. However, I am closer to McCain in terms of technology.

The internet, the web, Face Book, and all the other technological tools are still beyond my abilities. Fortunately I have Cat, Kate and Eve who work to keep me connected to the information highway. Newsletters, blogs and on-line learning are today’s reality. The ingenuity of the high tech world continues to amaze me. The marketing power of the web, and it’s ability to place opportunities in our living rooms is truly awesome. The world is changing and we must choose either to adjust or we will be a memory from “back in the day.”

So with this in mind, we will be offering on-line courses that allow people to sign up and participate in our curriculum on-line. There will be courses to help individuals gain insights and tools for self-improvement, as well as how to deal with the changes we all face. We will offer programs for correctional facilities, parole and transitional services for prison inmates. Another area of focus is union/management relations, and how to build strong companies and organizations right here in our own country. We will continue to add
other courses which will assist individuals and organizations in dealing with change, the only constant we can all count on.

Change has become the driving force for organizations and individuals as we strive to remain competitive in today’s economy. Change has been my personal mantra for the past 38 years. Just when I think I’m on top of things, they change! With a new president and new leadership in Washington D.C., this country has the opportunity to create a change in direction that will benefit not only the U.S., but the entire world.

Change is an inside job. It starts with each one of us. I’m excited about what we can achieve over the next four years. I’m in!

Peace,

Gordy Graham
Gordon Graham & Co.
www.ggco.com

A New Day!

2009-01-19T23:35:00.000-08:00

We anticipate a new day under new leadership. It will take tremendous courage to change the course of this country. Good words are important; they can get you elected, but they only last a short time without the actions that bring them to life. I’m optimistic about our new leadership, and excited about the possibilities that lay before us. We need jobs that pay decent wages, workers need a voice in the game, and unions give them that voice. Unions, like any democratic organization, are judged by their leadership. I’ve been impressed by the leadership of the U.A.W. They were willing to “put skin in the game.”

Labor built this country, and unions are the last advocates for keeping decent paying jobs here. Politicians need to address the greed and self-serving culture that is destroying people’s ability to find jobs that pay a living wage. We need to bring jobs back to our cities and states, and stop the out-sourcing that has destroyed our manufacturing base. Unions give our working men and women a voice in the future of our country. It has proven to be extremely dangerous to leave our future in the hands of politicians and greedy multi-national corporations.

This is a new day, and we need a new way. We voted overwhelmingly for change in this country. Obama rocks!

Gordy Graham
Gordon Graham & Co.

Gordy Graham's Daily Affirmation:

2009-01-15T17:13:00.001-08:00

Gordy Graham's Daily Affirmation: "I believe in myself and I believe I can make a positive difference in this world."

Gordy Graham: Dealing with Challenges

2009-01-15T15:55:00.002-08:00

Dealing with Challenges
by Gordon Graham

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change! Problems and opportunities can be two sides of the same coin. These are important concepts to keep in mind when things appear to be in turmoil.

There’s no question about current reality. The country is going through some very challenging times and it’s easy to get caught up in a negative mind set. However, it’s important to remind ourselves that the way we react mentally will have an influence on the outcome.

That doesn’t suggest that we ignore our challenges, but that we focus on creative ways of moving forward. To see through the present situation to what we will look like without the problem.

A good mental exercise is called the flick back, flick up technique. Flick back mentally to a challenging time in the past and then flick up to when you had worked through it. We have all gone through many difficult situations and we are all still in the game. Looking forward with hope and a positive expectancy can brighten the day.

The way that we think has a lot to do with the way that we act. It’s important to remind ourselves that we can control how we think. We can’t control the actions and conversations around us but we can control how we react to them.

See yourself six months from today, looking back on today and thinking “That was an interesting time!”

5 Tips for Managing Challenging Times

1. Keep in mind that we have control over how we react or respond to situations.
2. Recognize that bad news sells papers so don’t get caught up in the gloom and doom scenario.
3. Step back and evaluate options that may be available and have patience with yourself and others.
4. Stress can cause damage to relationships, so be gentle with those you love – again patience.
5. See yourself through the current situation into a positive future.

Be at peace and have patience with self and others.

Gordy Graham's 5 Tips on Talking to kids about drugs

2009-01-08T22:18:00.000-08:00

Gordy Graham's 5 Tips for talking to young people about drugs
written by Gordon Graham

1.)Whenever possible avoid a confrontational approach. When we feel pushed
we automatically push back.
2.)Be pro-active in discussing the issues surrounding drug use, i.e., make
the problem something that impacts communities and families on a larger
scale than just your son or daughter.
3.)Respect the young person's right to have opinions. Develop an
understanding that we are on the same side and solicit their input.
4.)Avoid a judgmental approach. The goal is to fix the problem not fix the
blame.
5.)Take advantage of opportunities to discuss current events (newspaper
articles, news stories) relating to the consequences of drug use, however,
not with an "I told you so" attitude.
A sense of unconditional love should override every conversation.

written by Gordy Graham www.ggco.com

Gordon Graham: First Look at 2009

2009-01-06T09:45:00.000-08:00

First Look at 2009 – January 5, 2009
by Gordon Graham

The beginning of a year is always a time for reflection and for making New Year’s resolutions. 2009 looks like it holds some significant challenges, and also some great opportunities. There’s real anticipation for our new leadership to take office, and also a sense of trepidation, depending upon your point of view.

I’m blessed with friends who hold some very different perspectives from Yours Truly. The beauty of friendship is that you can agree to disagree without damaging your relationships, because the basic decency and core values of the individuals involved are generally very similar. A lot of time and energy can be wasted trying to convince people that we have a monopoly on the “real truth,” which can cause a rift in the relationship, or people start to avoid our company.

There are certain things that are best avoided when we are with new acquaintances, they would include religion, politics and government to name a few. We can explore these topics with our close friends, with the caveat that we respect the other’s right to believe as they choose. Some of my best friends hold positions differing from mine on issues that are close to my heart. However, I recognize that they are caring, loving human beings who happen to disagree with my point of view. Life would be quite boring if we only associated with people who always agree with us.

One of my New Year’s resolutions (in addition to my yearly health resolutions!) is to recognize how blessed we are to live in a society where we can express our points of view. We can agree to disagree and then sit down and break bread together, remaining close friends.

2009 should be an exciting time for new beginnings. I look forward to Obama taking office. I’ve read both of his books and admire the depth of his knowledge, and the broad range of his personal experiences. We live in an extremely diverse society and there needs to be a respect for our differences, and a willingness to build on our areas of agreement is an essential component of coming together in unity.

Obama’s understanding of the deteriorating of our inner cities, and the lack of opportunities for young men and women growing up in these environments is encouraging.
He recognizes that there is a connection between the number of young males ending up in prisons and these poor environments. This gives me hope for addressing the problem where it exists, in our inner cities. We live in a great country that has the capability of ending the cycle of poverty and prison. This year of 2009 could be the start of something new, a change that will be of value to all segments of society.

Peace,

Gordy Graham
Gordon Graham & Co.
www.ggco.com

The Great Rip-Off of 2008

2008-12-24T13:07:00.000-08:00

Gordon Graham writes:

"The Great Rip-Off, December 24, 2008

I spent a large portion of my early life in and out of prisons. My crimes were mostly property crimes and parole violations, with an occasion escape thrown in. Doesn’t say much for my skills as a thief!

The past few months has focused our attention on a rip-off that should embarrass the most sophisticated of thieves in our prison system. It seems that $700 billion has just disappeared into thin air. The billions were meant to bailout a group of Wall Street swindlers who had ripped off the tax payers and brought the U.S. economy to its knees. That’s what I call taking crime to a whole new level.

My sympathy goes out to the thousands who fill our prisons. You could add up the total amount stolen by inmates in all state prisons and not reach the billions lost in the past few months by the largest corporations on Wall Street. Crime doesn’t pay unless you know how the real crooks play the game.

I’ve spent nearly forty years as an honest, tax paying citizen, working to assist men and women caught up in the criminal justice system. It offends every principle of decency to witness the greed and corruption of people who have so much, while trying to convince people who have so little that honesty pays.

The recent months and years have challenged my belief in people in power. We need change in a big way. Leadership sets the example. My hope is that Obama and his team can set that example which will resonate on Wall Street, Main Street and in cell blocks across this country."

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Gordon Graham

Gordon Graham: Perception is reality to the perceiver

2008-12-23T20:04:00.000-08:00

From Gordon Graham:

"Perception is reality to the perceiver. The years of seeing GM and the US auto manufacturers as inferior to foreign models is a thing of the past, but in many cases the perception still lingers.

The recent financial crisis reflects a view of the Big Three that is far from reality at the plant level. It's amazing to me how quick we are to fix the blame, but ignore the problem. General Motors and the U.A.W. build some of the best vehicles on the road despite operating on a playing field that puts them at a tremendous disadvantage, such as legacy costs that guarantee a decent life for retirees, health care, and livable wages.

Both the UAW and GM management have made some mistakes, but both have made great strides in improving how they do business as well. The US economy can ill afford to lose more of it's industrial base. I have been involved with the GM/UAW plants for the past 20 plus years, and during that time the improvements in product quality and production costs has been significant.

The men and women working in the GM plants can compete with any auto manufacturer in the world. The mismanagement and greed of financial institutions has created this crisis.

Let's keep the focus where it belongs, on Wall Street, not on hard working men and women who are the backbone of our society. The union and management at GM are working together to keep jobs in our communities; we face some very challenging times, and if the boat goes down we are all in it together." Gordon Graham

Gordy Graham : STAYING FOCUSED

2008-12-17T12:53:00.000-08:00

From Gordon Graham:

The first step to change is awareness. This awareness is often created by a significant emotional event, and is generally negative. We are reactive rather than pro-active. Many of our dreams and goals get stranded on that little island called "someday I'll..." Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Make this the start of something that brings joy to yourself and others.

After serving 17 years in maximum security prisons, I participated in a seminar on cognitive psychology, and it changed the direction of my life. The knowledge and insight I gained in that three day seminar created a significant emotional event, and I've been sharing that information with inmates in prisons from California to New York, companies, communities, agencies, and individuals for the past 30 plus years. Awareness is the first step to change - you don't know what to don't know.

Staying focused in a rapidly changing world has become more and more challenging. Just when you think you have life on track, the game changes. Working with individuals and organizations across the US and Canada, and helping them cope with change and manage change has been my mission for over 30 years.

More background on Gordy Graham

2008-12-17T12:47:00.000-08:00

He doesn't just teach a seminar on change, he lives the process. From convict leader to a recognized authority on change, Gordon Graham is a demonstration that change is possible. Inmates from Folsom Prison in California to Sing Sing in New York have benefited from his programs on how to make significant lasting changes. CEOs, union leaders, communities, and young people attest to his message that changes lives.

Author, lecturer, and program developer, his story is a transformation that offers hope to people from all walks of life. From convict leader to nationally recognized authority on change is a "road less traveled." For thirty-five years inmates, managers, union leaders, parents, teachers, and young people have been touched by his ability to demonstrate that change is possible.

Christmas Thoughts by Gordy Graham

2008-12-17T12:40:00.000-08:00

From Gordon Graham:

"It's near the end of a challenging year. 2008 would be a do-over for me if that option existed. However, when you consider that 2009 begins a new day for this country, it brightens the outlook considerably.

Christmas is always a time that I really enjoy. We fill my car with toys for the grandkids (who still like toys better than cash) and brave the mountain passes on our Santa run. Grandkids, family and friends...it don't get no better than that!!

I want to express my gratitude for your friendship and wish you and yours a great holiday season. We need to put things on hold for a bit and recognize how blessed we are for all that we have.

Peace."

Gordon Graham

Really who is this guy named Gordon Graham?

2008-12-15T20:49:00.001-08:00

From cell blocks to boardrooms, it’s been a ride. Thirty-eight years in and out of prisons. Escapes, riots, hunger strikes, months on bread and water, “the life of a good convict.”

The past thirty-eight years as an author, lecturer, businessman, and respected change agent. Cognitive skills programs in prisons across the U.S. and Canada, a sought after speaker in the area of labor/management relations, with a mission to keep jobs in our communities and to create opportunities for men and women locked up in prisons across the country.

Who is Gordon Graham?

2008-12-15T20:47:00.000-08:00

His life is the stuff of fiction. A story of change that challenges all stereotypes. An ex-convict, seventeen years in maximum security prisons, escapes, riots, a year on bread and water, destined to die in prison…

Today a respected change agent, working with corporations, unions, prison wardens, men and women in prison, at risk youth and communities across the United States and Canada. A life transformed thirty-eight years ago by a chance encounter with an educator in cognitive psychology.

Since that time he has challenged all pre-conceptions of what can happen when you take control of your own life. His is a story of change that has impacted thousands over the past thirty-eight years. In a world in dire need of faith in ourselves to change direction, this is a story of not only hope and belief but of accomplishment.

Catching the Olympic Spirit

2008-08-18T22:19:00.000-07:00

For the past several days, like many others around the world, I’ve been totally caught up in the 2008 Summer Olympics. Watching the awe-inspiring display of talent is an amazing demonstration of the potential that lies within the human spirit. The pride and commitment to excellence demonstrated by athletes from every country has been inspiring to me. As an American it is uplifting to see our athletes demonstrate a picture of what America truly stands for at our best. It’s a pleasure to be represented by Kobe, Labron and the rest of the Redeem Team, as well as all of the American swimmers, gymnasts, beach volley ball players and all others who represent the pride of who we are as a people. This could be said of all the athletes from around the world as well.

What has been even more meaningful to me is the respect and admiration shown by these great athletes, from every corner of the globe, for one another. Regardless of race, color, creed, gender, age, language or country, there has been an overwhelming sense of the recognition of their oneness. The competition is fierce and the pride in the country being represented is apparent in each competitor. However, that doesn’t negate the respect and acknowledgement of what each individual brings to these games. For this moment in time, we have set politics and our differences aside. The athletes from all over the world have set an example of how much more alike than different we are. It would be a great improvement in the world if we all carried this attitude beyond the athletes and the Olympic games.

I recently returned from Nashville, Tennessee, where I was presenting to a group of union and management representatives. They are faced with competing in a global economy, which requires a significant change in how we interact and engage with our work force. The pride and commitment to being all that we can be, demonstrated during the Olympics, is an example of what is possible. If we could capture a small part of that in our organizations and our work force, we would be hard to beat.

We live in challenging times. These Olympic athletes are a shining example of how to compete with dignity and respect. It’s encouraging to get beyond politics and recognize how great we are, and can be, as a people. The preparation, the training, the respect, the teamwork and the pride in representing your sport and your country make these Olympics something special. If we would all commit to carrying a bit of this spirit back into our lives, our homes, our jobs and our communities, it would make a huge difference for the betterment of our world.

Be at peace. Gordy

Balance

2008-08-11T19:53:00.000-07:00

The challenges we face in today’s fast-paced world increase the importance of balance in our lives. Because the mind gets overwhelmed with financial needs, it’s easy to neglect other aspects that are of equal importance, like family, personal health and the parts of our lives that are social, recreational, educational and spiritual. These essential parts of a balanced lifestyle are often put on the back burner to be dealt with later.

My wife, Eve, was a counselor in another life and is quite good at reminding me of the importance of family. We are blessed with five children and fourteen grandchildren between us. Eve is always on top of birthdays and other special family occasions and she keeps me aware of these dates and times. A card or a phone call can make someone’s day. I love my family and yet I can still forget the importance of letting them know how important they are to me, especially on their special occasions. She also encourages social and entertainment activities, without which I tend to get totally consumed with my mission in life and neglect making time for the two of us.

Health becomes more important as the years go by, and while I enjoy exercise, I need to schedule time in my day for it. Walking has replaced running, and that and a few light weights is now my routine. I have a tendency to procrastinate when I’m “on the road.” It’s the starting that’s most difficult! I’m an avid reader and I enjoy gaining new ideas on the concepts of change and the psychology of life. I try to participate in a seminar on these subjects every year in order to keep my own “saw” sharpened. My desire is to stay connected to a Higher Power. My life always works better when I make this a priority. This part of my life is very personal to me, and I respect other people’s right to their own path as well. It’s great to do what I do!

I leave for Nashville, Tennessee tomorrow on a 5:40 a.m. flight through Denver. The airports and planes are just the details. I goal-set to stay focused on making an excellent presentation to the people attending the conference and meeting new friends. It’s best to stay end-result oriented because the details (like airport delays, etc.) can be very boring.

Have a great week! Gordy

Healthy Culture

2008-08-10T15:17:00.000-07:00

For the past thirty years, I've recognized that the culture of an organization has a major impact on performance. It also has an impact on an individuals' mental health. At Gordon Graham and Company, we've encountered some very toxic cultures over the years as well as some that create an engaged workforce. Obviously, culture is driven by leadership. When leadership recognizes, acknowledges and rewards individuals fairly, creates an environment that encourages personal growth and views employees as whole human beings, not just as numbers, it goes a long way toward establishing a healthy culture.

When times get challenging these things are tough to sustain. Honesty and open communication can build the kind of trust that is the foundation of a constructive culture. In hindsight, I recognize how the culture of a prison can alter how an individual thinks. It can change your outlook on life. My first experience as an inmate had a tremendous impact on the next twenty years of my life. I went in to prison thinking like a scared young man and the induction into the prison culture gradually changed my thought patterns. I came out six years later thinking like a convict. It's the same idea as going in with a sprained ankle and coming out with a broken leg.

Cultures can change. Even in a prison, a constructive culture is a necessity for survival in a global economy. It will also have to become a reality in prisons if we are ever going to change the end product that returns to our communities.

A Positive Conspiracy

2008-08-04T15:01:00.000-07:00

In the 1980’s there was a spiritual revolution that took place in our society. Marilyn Ferguson wrote a book called The Aquarian Conspiracy, and her premise was that people on a spiritual quest recognize one another when they meet. I believe there are positive conspirators as well, and that when they meet they connect in the same way.

I’m writing a book entitled, A Positive Conspiracy, outlining some of the positive conspirators in my own life’s journey who have opened doors and given me entry into areas that would generally be closed to people with my background. These co-conspirators are CEO’s and union leaders; wardens and convicts; women and men; young and old; from various races and skin colors. They all seem to have one common interest, and that is to make the world that we all inhabit a better place.

These conspirators’ motivation seems to come from a need to give their lives meaning, that need we all share that is filled by giving rather than from receiving. What I’ve discovered in my own life’s journey is that the more you give, the more you receive. Some don’t have the resources to give material gifts, but we can all share our unique talents, friendship and our love.

Just reaching out in some way to another human being can be a great gift. When I visit a prison and have the opportunity to share my knowledge and experience with men and women who are locked away from society, my cup is filled.

There’s a great saying that goes, “if you cut an apple in half, anyone can count the seeds in an apple; but no one can count the apples in a seed.” You never know when your words of encouragement, or an unexpected, “I love you,” will make someone’s day. What co-conspirators have discovered is that the more you give, the happier you are. That is to say, when our spirit of intent is to enrich another rather than being driven by ego, the need for self-glorification or financial gain we feel more fulfilled. If there is a secret to life it is hidden in this concept.

All of us need to generate income since we live in a world that requires money to sustain our own and our families’ welfare. However, money should be a by-product of good work and/or good service rather than just trading time for money. In psychologist Eric Erickson’s eight developmental stages, the seventh stage is generativity, or the giving without selfish motivation. It seems that many reach this point early in life, and yet some never seem to gain this stage of development. The only one who truly knows why we do what we do is the person in the mirror.

I’ll be back next week. Be at peace.

Gordy Graham

My First Attempt at Blogging

2008-07-29T23:59:00.000-07:00

Hey! This is my first attempt to enter the world of blogs. This is a voice that has concern for men and women, young or old, who are challenged by changes in our society. I speak from the vantage point of a unique background and perspective on life. My first thirty-eight years were spent living on the streets and as a "consumer of correctional services." I was a five-time loser, in and out of maximum security prisons. I've been shot, escaped from prisons, been involved in riots and hunger strikes, and spent 365 consecutive days on bread and water, confined to "The Hole." I was destined to either die in the joint or lose my life in the commission of a crime.

Then, thirty-eight years ago, something happened in my life that opened my awareness and changed the direction of my life. By chance, I participated in a seminar that was centered on cognitive psychology. I made a major decision at that time to build the balance of my life on honesty. I've never tried to be something I'm not. My life is an open book. In fact, I've written two books. The first is an autobiography entitled, The One-Eyed Man is King and the second, Change is an Inside Job. Both are available on my website at http://www.ggcostore.com/.

Everyone I work with from CEOs to union leaders and from wardens to inmates knows my background. I have been blessed with many friends who have opened doors and given me opportunities that are rare for people with my past history. I also know that there is a power greater than myself working through me when I am centered within.

I have spent the second part of my life sharing the awareness I've gained and teaching the tools for change with men and women in prisons across the United States and Canada. I've taught people in industrial plants, communities and organizations large and small, including many in union-management roles and individuals across the spectrum of life.

It's been a ride and I still have a lot of gas left in the tank! Corrections is my first passion. We have created a system that costs the tax payers billions of dollars each year with no real impact on public safety. In many cases, it would be much better to spend $40,000 on creating jobs and training programs that could create a productive, contributing member of society than to keep one person in prison for one year. There will always be a need for prisons. There are people who are a threat to public safety, but they are only one segment of the prison population. In many instances, people go in with a sprained ankle and come out with a broken leg. The first step to change is awareness, followed by a recognition that "change is an inside job."

I'll be back next week. You can visit our website at http://www.ggco.com/ or email Cat at cathyc@ggco.com or Kate at kolney@ggco.com.

Be at peace,

Gordy Graham